Self made man

Self made man. Here is a book with answers - answers as to how and why men act the way they do - or so I thought. Jones admitted through her research that while she was *dressing* as a man, it was only a subjective response, which is understandable.

She gradually drew to a close - man as repressed, men were taught from birth not to express themselves emotionally, which when we think about it, is quite true. She stated it was a part of social conditioning - the reason as to why men keep their feelings to themselves. While men are so fascinated by the emotional/hysterical nature of women, I sometimes wonder, if it were not for the social conditioniong of 'don't express yourself, you're a man', would they not be able to empathize more with women?

Obviously, it seems a little ridiculous to be asking such a stupid question. Of course not. That's the way the world is. It just is. Years and years of that 'patriarchal bull', where a man is supposed to be the breadwinner, the strong, hard iron man is instilled in the back of men's minds, even subconciously. We can't change that.

Now we have the 'metrosexual' man though. The New Age Sensitve guy. The SNAG. However, Jones also said, that while we expect men to be both sensitive and understanding, we don't necessarily want them to be soppy when it comes to those 'difficult situations'. We want them to hold the earth under their arms, she said. So we want both the sensitive man AND the man that can hold the world under his arm, that can deal with a difficult situation and not lapse backwards.

It's asking a bit much really. At least in that department.

A man's relationship with a man was something that intrigues many people - men and women alike. There is a comraderie, she notes, a silent one at times that may seem more open, less backhanded and without as much malice or suggestion as women's relationshps can soak up. Simple, but strong.

There are only two reasons a man looks at another man, what are they?
----They either want to **** you, or kill you.

It was a strange response. An even stranger question.

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Strip clubs. What is it that makes a man go there? Women don't want to know that their husbands go there, of course not. That's natural. And a man's sexuality does not simply stop at a certain point, they don't become wholly puritanical either.

So what is it about strip clubs? They're not glamorous. In fact, they're exactly like a factory. A horrible, grey factory with women who postively detest everything about you. There is something in their eyes that says, 'I hate my job, i hate my life and i hate you for making me do this'. Do men notice? Some do. Some don't. That is not to say, that I am demeaning strip clubs. Sure they can be fun. But the atmosphere of strip clubs is like that of a production factory. There is no glamour in what they do.

That's off the track. Men go there, as Jones quite perceptively noted, because it was beyond anything normal. Everything about it was. The women, who shoved themselves into your face, would smell of nothing. Nothing. No odour. Like Barbie dolls. They would be dryer than a piece of paper. Jones wondered what it was that these women did to get themselves to be like that. Completely unnatural, looking at you with a glaze of disdain and hatred while they performed their acts. The saddest part of course, was the fact that she felt pity for them, which was unexpected. There was no hate, there was no, 'this is so cheap', just pity. And I think that says more than anything about the state of a strip club if a woman can say that about being in there.